THE FOLLOWING IS A CHINESE GOOD LUCK TANTRA TOTEM. 1 - Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully. 2 - Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other. 3 - Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want. 4 - When you say, "I love you", mean it. 5 - When you say, "I'm sorry", look the person in the eye. 6 - Be engaged at least six months before you get married. 7 - Believe in love at first sight. 8 - Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People who don't have dreams don't have much. 9 - Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely. 10 - In disagreements, fight fairly. Please No name calling. 11 - Don't judge people by their relatives. 12 - Talk slowly but think quickly. 13 - When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?" 14 - Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk. 15 - Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze. 16 - When you lose, don't lose the lesson. 17 - Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; Responsibility for all your actions. 18 - Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship. 19 - When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it. 20 - Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice. 21 - Spend some time alone.