Last month, I heard from a number of male readers who felt it only fair that I disclose what women their age (and, of course, younger) want. So, to ensure equivalency of samples, I used the same methodology. I limited my sample to Orange County Jewish women between the ages of 42 and 62, who have posted a profile on JDate, and I present my findings by the JDate essays, beginning with a profile of this archetypal Jewish woman.

About you. You are passionate about something. You are a professional, generally an executive, either a high level manager or business owner, or are in a helping profession, either a teacher or therapist. No matter what, you are high energy! You’re a great cook. You can be found in the gym, keeping yourself fit, and you are younger than your years. You love to laugh. You make a point of mentioning that your pictures are recent. You’re easy going and nonjudgmental. You know what you want out of life, and it is to have fun. You enjoy movies, plays, concerts, and travel. You have a big heart. You’re a giver and you’ll take care of your man, but also want him to take care of you. You’re independent. You love to dance and hope that your man will too! Your relationships are the most important aspect of your life. You’re a lot of fun. You enjoy many things and consider yourself eclectic. You’re down to earth. You have a positive attitude and see the best in people. You have many friends and a loving family. You enjoy staying in as much as going out. Although you’re busy with your career, you make time for a relationship. Your life is perfect, except for that missing piece.

You are looking for a long-term relationship, but not necessarily marriage. Your children are grown or well on their way to becoming adults, and even the younger among you are no longer looking for marriage and children. Very few of you are looking for just “a date,” and you have no interest in finding a “friend” (you already have plenty!) or an “activity partner.”

Your perfect first date is simple and generally involves a cup of coffee in a casual setting. After all, you’re a busy woman! You’re more concerned about getting to know your date than where you meet or what you do. A first date becomes perfect when he’s a mensch, when there’s chemistry, and when you see the potential for this to be your “last first date.” There is little mention of romance.

Your ideal match is confident, honest, and intelligent. He has at least as much education as you have and he’s ambitious. He has integrity, values similar to your own, and a great sense of humor (in other words, you find him to be funny). He has good manners and is kind to the elderly, children, and animals. He is loyal, emotionally and physically healthy, and sincere. He’s outgoing. He knows what he wants out of life and how to treat a woman. He loves to travel. He takes care of himself and dresses nicely. Being able to dance is a real plus! He’s romantic and sexy, and you love the sound of his voice. He’s anywhere from 5 years younger to 7 years older, although a few of you will go up to 10 years older (and as much as 10 years younger!). He has a great smile and is affectionate.

Your ideal relationship involves being happy with yourselves as individuals and happy with each other. You are both independent and interdependent. You have similar values and goals, excellent communication, and respect each other. You grow from each other. You have chemistry and passion.

You learned from past relationships that, even with communication, respect, and trust, you still need to first find the right man. If he’s the right man, you’re more than happy to compromise. You cannot create chemistry; it’s either there or it’s not.

So now that you men have the answer to the age-old question, “What Do Women Want?” what’s stopping you from being that man and from finding the woman of your dreams?